You found your soulmate...  So why are things so hard?

Does this sounds like you?

You found your person, and you knew they were the one. And since then, you've been building your life and your dreams around each other. 

And in the beginning, you were filled with hope and possibilities, love and excitement. But somewhere along the line, things started to change.

Conflict patterns emerged, and communication became a BIG problem. 

Now, instead of feeling energized and happy, you're feeling drained and defeated. 

Your headspace is consumed by the problems you're having in your relationship, and it's keeping you from focusing on the other things that matter to you. 

You're tired of waking up heavy, lonely, and sad from another day of dissatisfaction and disconnection.

These struggles--the ongoing heartache-- is overwhelming and exhausting. 

You'd give anything to save this relationship... but you're running out of energy and ideas. 

We can help.

But you need to know the TRUTH about what it takes

You've spent a long time stuck in these painful patterns. Too long. And, if you're like most couples, you've already tried a few things to make your relationship better, but they haven't worked... or at least not as well as you wanted them to. 

You're not alone. Most of the couples we see have been stuck in some degree of struggle for 7 years or more! After so much time, real, lasting change can begin to feel impossible. 

Let us assure you-- it's not!

But it does take MORE than what most people try, (and believe it or not, you have NOT tried everything yet!)

Going from drained and disconnected to happily ever after is not a journey for the feint of heart, and it doesn't happen overnight. (Though, you'd be surprised at how quickly things can start to improve!)

Transforming your relationship takes commitment, courage, and the willingness to learn, grow, and step into YOUR next level of self. 

Yes, YOUR next level. Certainly, your partner has work to do too, but focusing on what they need to change is ineffective at best, and, more often than not, makes things worse.

The truth is, it only takes ONE person to change a relationship, but when BOTH of you are doing the work of improving your own part of what hasn't been working-- with true commitment, courage, and willingness to grow-- THAT is when the magic happens. 

If you think you've got what it takes, and you're willing to give your all to save your relationship, then we want to show up to help make it happen. 

Why working with us... WORKS! 

When we work with couples, we get results. 

Our couples experience tremendous improvement in their relationship in as little as 3 months!

Why are our results so good? Great question!

1) We know what we are doing.

• We bring a combined 20+ years of experience in relationship and personal development.
• Our work is grounded in cutting edge research and thought leadership in couples therapy, personal development, mindset, and spirituality.
• We use a clear, proven framework for understanding problems and empowering you into solutions. 
• Our program was developed in response to Jeni's 10+ year PhD-level work as a licensed Couple & Family Therapist, and the ways she found that couples therapy was falling short.

2) We go way beyond "support." In ADDITION to coaching with US, we provide:

• An entire digital curriculum to help you learn the key concepts, frameworks, and skills to help you be more effective in creating change.
• A full PDF workbook to review the curriculum (or in case you like to read rather than watch).
• Integration exercises to help take the learning deeper and begin to apply it immediately. 
• Access to a class library, so you can learn more about topics that are most relevant to YOU.
• A supportive community to offer feedback and remind you that you're not alone.
• Additional access to us (in our 1:1 coaching program) so you can get the extra support you need when you need it.

3) We help you build and keep momentum, so things can keep getting better and easier.

• It's not just an hour per week, like therapy. Working with us means prioritizing your relationship and spending about 2-4 hours each week learning, processing, reflecting, applying, and receiving feedback.
• We help you focus on what you want to be different going forward and we offer clear, specific steps you can take each week to get there.
• Our program and process builds upon itself, setting you up for success as you and your relationship grow and heal.
• We are paying attention to how you're doing and become your accountability partners; you're not alone in this work.

Who we are... 

Welcome, dear one. We're so glad you found us! My name is Dr. Jeni Wahlig (she/they), and with me is my partner and soulmate, Calvin Osili (he/him).

We are members of the LGBTQ+ community and polyamorous. We are an interracial couple and a blended family. Attention to intersectionality, power and privilege is a core value for ourselves, our relationship, and our work. 

Our relationship has been an epic story that began with years of painful and exhausting struggles that nearly destroyed us. Not even my PhD and private practice in couples therapy was enough to save our relationship.

We were drained and defeated, consumed by our struggles, and it was affecting every other area of our lives. Something had to change, or we weren't going to make it.

Thankfully, we figured it out and transformed our relationship from disconnected and dissatisfied into an easy, fulfilling, 99% conflict-free relationship of our dreams!

And it was THIS experience that inspired us to examine exactly what we'd done so we could help others do the same (but more quickly and easily than we did!) 

Who we work with...

We don't work with just anyone; we know it's important to find the right "fit". We want the time, energy, and money you spend in any work with us to be more than worth the investment. So here are the kind of folx we vibe with best...

We love working with trailblazers-- folx who are committed to carving their own path, who insist on being in full alignment with their Truth, who dare to go after their dreams, and who desire to live their fullest and most joyful expressions of Self. 

We work with the rebels and counter-culture folx, with people who are courageous enough to pursue radical authenticity, live outside of the box, challenge norms, and marching to the beat of their own drum. 

We work with mission-driven entrepreneurs, helpers, healers, spiritual seekers, light-workers, and soulmates.

We work with parents who deeply desire to show their children how to do love and relationships far better than they'd ever been taught themselves.

And we work with ANY person or couple committed to personal growth and accountability, and who is willing to do the work to center in love and  consciousness so that they can build an energizing, fulfilling, authentic partnership that lasts. 

And no, we don't ONLY work with Queer, Gender Diverse, or Non-Monogamous couples, but those identities are part of who we are, so it's important for us to be visible as representatives and resources to our communities. We model what's possible, and we GET the unique struggles for folx in these intersections.

If any of this sounds like you, then you've found your people!

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