The 5 Stages of Love - Which Stage Are You In?

There are 5 stages to love, most couples only make it to #3 and they either fizzle out or stay stuck there. 

Stage 1 - Falling In Love Stage -   The honeymoon phase as some like to call it.  Your hormones are running the show.  You’re experiencing really powerful attraction toward each other.  New relationship energy is coursing through your veins. You have the energy to do all kinds of things you weren’t doing before.  Staying up late talking, f*cking, correction...Netflix and chilling, sleepovers, at each other’s places, you’re glowing, you feel so connected, things are passionate.  This is the part of relationships we want to be feeling forever.  But we don’t.  Why?

Because of Stage 2 - Sh*t Gets Real -   In this stage, you’re still in connection and feeling love for each other but things between you have changed.  You are probably living together for a while at this point, so you really get to see and experience one another on a more extensive level.  You have bills, household responsibilities and just generally more things to experience differences, hard conversations, or conflict over.  

Stage 3 - The How the F*ck Did We Get Here? -  At this point, you have seen a lot of the worst in each other.  There are pretty deep rooted patterns in how you interact in conflicts, probably often not leading to any kind of actual helpful resolutions… that just continues to build resentment between you.  You’re not experiencing romance, passion, sex the same. And if you do, it feels like effort.  

The reason most people stay stuck here is because they don’t know how to make it better… or they think their partner needs to change to make it better. It starts feeling harder and harder to improve anything because everything you try results in more disconnect and harm to the relationship.  You're blaming each other which never feels good.  Many people take that as a sign that maybe this isn’t the relationship for me and they just end it… but then basically go do the same sh*t in subsequent relationships.

Stage 4 - Establishing A Loving Understanding -  Loving understanding about yourself and your negative patterns, your shit to own in whats not working. We call that Empowered Accountability and it’s the cornerstone of what we teach.  You start to realize that your differences aren’t the problems, they’re just differences.  You learn how to love and support each other and your differences.  Appreciating each other for exactly who and how you each are, not based on the expectations you have for how you want the other to be.  

Stage 5 - The Unstoppable Team -  You’ve overcome the hard stuff.  You have practiced and mastered the technique of a new way of being, loving and supporting one another and your differences.  You feel unshakeable together as a couple because you know that no matter that happens, you’re going to approach it like a team.  Us vs. the problem.  You feel connected, safe, loved, fulfilled and able to communicate about what you want and need without fear, and without conflict. As a person you feel safe to grow and expand into the highest version of yourself and your relationship is amazing energetic source fueling that growth. Sex and connection feel so much easier, its like phase 1

As the cofounder and relationship coach at PowerfuLove.  I want to help you elevate your stage 3 love, so you can experience stage 4 and beyond, especially if you’re at the brink of breakup or considering divorce or separation.  We have a better solution and it's far more effective than couples therapy or marriage counseling.

If you are ready to level up, to get unstuck, the program we created is transforming relationships, for most, in as little as 3 months. Seriously.  Just take the next step, apply for your free Relationship Empowerment call.  Dr. Jeni and I are looking forward to meeting you and your partner soon!